You Must Learn To Let Go

The lesson of my life has been to let go. 

To Trust… to have faith… 

I think trust can sound like a broad word, but encompasses so much. 

Trust can be knowing there is more for you than the ‘right’ plan, that there is always a broader reason ahead, and we don’t know the answers every moment of the day. Trust is being okay with that uncertainty.

I’ve learned this lesson so many times, but it just keeps getting deeper. The layers add up over the years, and I’ve learned that trusting is a lifelong lesson we never truly graduate from. 

To trust, we must let go. That’s scary. 

We know it’s scary because of the way our bodies respond. 

Yes. Trusting emits a physical response. Some of us just have never known how to label it. 

For me, I know I’m entering a zone where I need to trust when I feel the dullest thrum of anxiety. It’s not so bad that I would label the feeling as anxious, but the threshold is rising. I feel a gentle rumble in my stomach, and my back feels like I’ve been holding myself straight for too long. 

Maybe for you, you clench your jaw, pull your shoulders in tighter towards your ears. 

It’s a natural tension, so we gloss over it. But how could we use this cue as a gauge for when it’s time to let go and trust? 

It starts with taking inventory. 

There’s immense power in noticing the small shifts in our body. We can so easily become just slightly out of alignment that we never pause to consider if something deeper may be brewing below the surface. 

Pausing to take inventory might sound like “why doesn’t that feel good, who do I want to be, how do I want to show up in this world?” 

Simple questions, and yet they change the tone of our response. When we can more clearly pinpoint what’s just slightly off, we can pivot. Patterns can’t be broken if we aren’t aware that they’re even happening, afterall. 

Once we take inventory, it’s time to take ownership. This happens in the midst of the feelings, so it takes practice. 

I had to learn how to reclaim ownership of my patterns and reactions. 

For myself and other womxn in my community, there’s a duality to it. We’re both present with the moment, but also hovering, almost out of body, and observing ourselves from above. We’re gauging our posture, the words we’re saying, the thoughts we’re having. All the while making micro adjustments. The goal isn’t perfection - the goal is to show up a little more as our true selves everytime we step out into our days. 

Personally, I never felt like my soul language was someone who wanted to please, who wanted to be a yes-womxn’ but because it was something I conditioned myself from a young age, I had altered my course. When I noticed this happening, it became easier for me to rechart my course. But I had to be the one who was in control of the ship. I had to realize that I have the power to change navigation. 

For me in my daily life, this is a continuous asking & digging into why do I feel this way; what has triggered this response? 

When you’re in a place of awareness, you can begin to correlate your experiences with your body’s responses. 

It's learning how to let go of restrictions so you can enter in abundance and spaciousness into routines that make you feel uneasy. 

I recommend my clients to start even with daily, seemingly mindless tasks. 

For example - next time you’re washing the dishes, take notice of your breath, if you’re clenching your jaw or drawing your shoulder blades up to your ears. Are you holding tension when you shouldn’t be? Are you not holding tension, and you’ve just never noticed? 

The more you do this in your mundane moments, the more dialed in you become in the heightened moments of your life. You’ll start to notice when even the smallest things in your body are out of alignment, and then you can pivot. You can intentionally ask “why doesn’t that feel good, who do I want to be, how do I want to show up in this world?” 

It’s an analytical response to your body’s natural response to events. 

This inner work is the frame we build our lives upon. It’s not just ‘woo-woo,’ it’s as simple as stepping back, making improvements, and watching our headspace shift.